I Will Never Let Go, Jack

NatalieGonzalez

As I drove down the road the other day, I took a moment and looked around me. Every detail looks the same and yet everything has changed. Trees are still tall and roads are still roads. Birds still chirp and the wind still blows through the trees.

Or maybe I just never took the time to stop and look.

While everything still looks the same, everything is also different. The new normal has begun to settle in, I suppose. No matter your situation, we are all being told to “stay home”. It makes things complicated of course. Daily tasks we took for granted have now become distant wishes. Things like running to the grocery store for one or two items, taking your kids to the park, or attending church on Sunday. Our once busy and hectic schedules have been temporarily halted and put on pause until further notice. As we all grapple with our new normal, some things remain the same, even though they appear to have changed.

Sunday mornings I used to wake up early and attend the eight a.m. mass with my husband and sometimes kids. Yes, I admit that some Sundays I wouldn’t bring my kids to church. Some Sundays it was nice to sit, just my husband and I, and worship without digging for crayons or motioning for a child to kneel. While I’m sure some of church society won’t like that my children were absent, I care very little for the opinions of anyone other than my God. Nevertheless, the eight a.m. mass has become a favorite of mine. I attended every Sunday at this particular service with my husband and we may be the youngest people in the audience. The aged crowd of people is so peaceful and serene. After service we are often approached by any number of people telling us how beautifully we worship or what a treasure it is to see the love my husband and I share. And yes, when we bring all five kids to mass, we are told what a blessing it is for them to be there, how well-behaved and beautiful they all are.

I have met so many people that I now have a checklist of hugs and waves every Sunday for my 8 a.m. crew! One person on that list in particular is Jack, an old man with wrinkled skin and arthritic hands. I know very little about him. I passed him every day at church, shook his hand after the Our Father, and wished him peace.

One Sunday after prayer, I heard a whisper say, You should hug him today. I knew exactly who. After the amen, I left my pew and walked two rows back. As he reached his hand out for a shake, I hugged him instead.

I’d been hugging Jack every Sunday since. We had gotten acquainted and it was a great pleasantry to my Sunday to hug my new friend. Some Sundays he told me how beautiful my children are or what a gift my family is to watch. Other Sundays he whispers to me that I am an “angel” or “a blessing”. It may seem very strange, but this encounter is one I looked forward to each week. His soul speaks to mine for some unexplained reason.

The Sunday before we were all told church would close, I went to step out of my pew and hug Jack. As I turned to walk two rows back I paused....I just knew I couldn’t hug him that day. I knew it wasn’t safe for him or me. He stepped out, our eyes met and he wrapped his arms around himself and I did the same. It wasn’t the same. Nevertheless, we showed our love from six feet away. While it wasn’t what I wanted, it was enough, I suppose.

I don’t know Jack. He attends mass with a woman named Debbie. They share a love for each other but I’m not sure what type; it doesn’t matter. He dresses reverently each week. He doesn’t have envelopes which tells me that even though he isn’t a technical “member” of the parish, he still throws cash in the basket every time it comes to him. He kneels at every allotted time, although you can tell it hurts his aging body. He cries when they sing "Amazing Grace", as do I.

This Sunday, I watched mass from my bedroom. I knelt and prayed. Catholic mass is very routine. There’s a rhythm to it. Sit, stand, kneel...repeat. While each mass is inherently the same, each week it changes and is different. After the Lord's Prayer came the part where normally I would be anticipating Jack’s hug from two pews back. Anxiously awaiting a hug from a stranger. In its absence this past week, I cried. Elliot heard me and came in to find me, hands lifted in the air, tears streaming down my face. He hugged me because he knew, he hugs Jack too. I know that this all may sound so strange, but I miss Jack. I don’t even know his last name, but I feel great love for him.

In the monotony of our busy lives and hectic schedules, we go through the motions. Just like a Catholic mass; we sit, we stand, we kneel. We wake up, we get dressed, we go to work or take the kids to school or whatever we do. We arrive at our destination, only realizing upon arrival that we are even there at all. In our minds, we focus on the destination and not the journey. Now it is easy to see all that was taken for granted. Each hug we begrudgingly gave is missed. Contact and human interaction are set aside while we maintain our health.

Maybe the coronavirus has touched your life more deeply than it has mine. Perhaps you know someone with the coronavirus. Maybe you’re a doctor or nurse working on the front lines of this pandemic. Or maybe you’re like me, isolated at home with nothing but time to ponder those connections you took for granted. Those hugs from Jack that you desperately wish you could get back.

Reality Changing Observations:

Q1. What things have you taken for granted in the past that you now miss?

Q2. Have you attended virtual church? What are your thoughts?

Q3. Given the opportunity, what is one thing you would do that you can't do now because of the coronavirus?

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